Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment. It may evoke changes in them such as cognitive dissonance or low self-esteem, rendering the victim additionally dependent on the gaslighter for emotional support and validation. Using denial, misdirection, contradiction and disinformation, gaslighting involves attempts to destabilize the victim and delegitimize the victim's beliefs.

When he says things like......

Who's texting you now?

I'll handle the money.

You aren't wearing that dress.

You have had enough to drink.

Why isn't my tea ready?

Or it can be a look, the kind of look that says you will be sorry when we get home.

A tap on the shoulder, saying do as you are told with a smile.

A secret phrase, like we'll talk about this when we get home?

A secret smile, and you know it means you have said or done something he does not like. It becomes normal life, and you get used to it.You have your good days, but mostly bad days. In reality, you know it's not right, you know there is better out there, you have a gut feeling.

The greatest gaslighting operation in our history is happening right now, and the gut feeling is here. We are all being played.

It's all about control.