marriage vows

iminent divorce, has made me reflect on my wedding vows. did i say them just to keep her happy? did i mean them at the time, did she? i think not. you know the one i mean, for richer,for better and in health. i know people tweek vows, wish i had. marriage and vows should be for life, these days, thats not true. sad really in a way, but another example of how the dominant species are asserting their power.